Not so long ago, I firmly believed that living alone, making my own hummus, refusing to date, and silently meditating on my dreams made me a badass. I loved being “independent”. And according to psychologists, I was living the “me me me” generational dream.
“Millennials have come of age in the era of the quantified self, recording their daily steps on FitBit, their whereabouts every hour of every day [online]…”
We love to boost our self-esteem and focus on ourselves. In fact, according to PEW research, most young adults today are waiting to get married, creating single parent households, and nearly 70% of millennials say you can’t be too careful in dealing with people.
However, we’re ok paying people to cut our hair, serve us a sandwich, play loud music while we ride a spin bike, and fix our car…
So what is it about letting people help us personally that is so scary?
You’ve seen Pinterest, everybody is yapping about vulnerability, finding your tribe, living inspired, etc… Yet we are not really willing to invest in the connections we need.
Even some of the world’s most successful go-getters recommend intentionally connecting with people that uplift.
“We all need people who give us feedback” -Bill Gates